Top 5: Ways to Show You're a Gentleman

What kind of girl would fall for the self-centered slob from the pub? A real lady needs a real gentleman. Gentlemen, for centuries have been praised upon by women and men alike. Women want to be with gentlemen and men want to be gentlemen. Some guys think they know what it takes to be a gentleman; show a little attention to her and open a few doors for her and boom, you're a gentleman... I don't think so. What most men do to become gentlemen, like talking about sentimental topics, or having "girl talks" only makes them gentle men. Well here are some pointers on differentiating between the gentle man and the gentleman. Follow these steps, and you will be on your merry way to becoming a real gentleman.



1. The umbrella

Sometimes the umbrella is just not big enough to cover both of you completely. In this case, a gentleman would obviously lean the umbrella towards his lady friend. Guys, getting a little wet won't kill you, if anything it'll get you some extra points for later that night when she sees that you sacrificed a shoulder for her to be nice and dry. A true gentleman is always thinking two steps ahead.

2. Walking on the sidewalk

Most men don't know this, but making sure the woman is on the inside of the sidewalk is crucial. Don't ever let her walk closest to the street where cars are driving. Holding her hands will make her feel safe, but make sure you let her know, if there is any danger, she is farthest from it. And if there was any imminent danger from the street, you are there to protect her. Attention to minor details such as this is what distinguishes a gentleman from a gentle man.

3. The towels

Again, the gentleman is always keen on details. When a woman steps out of the shower, you should be there to hand the towels to her. I say towels and not towel because a woman needs two towels. We men just use one big towel but, we don't have those lovely long locks like Rapunzel. A woman needs a towel to dry her body and another one to wrap around her hair. Details gentlemen, details!



4. Offer your jacket

The weather seems a bit more chilly than what the weather said, and your lady friend really seems to be feeling the wind chill. No worries! Because she is with a gentleman, and he is not afraid of the cold. Offer your jacket, but NEVER let her know that you may be cold. Don't show her any signs of the weather getting to you, and don't remind her of the weather. Simply let her know you are okay, and make sure she is warm, that's all you care about.

5. Introduce her

When attending a social gathering, its your duty as a gentleman to introduce your lady friend to the rest of the crowd. It's not about flaunting her, but more about letting her feel comfortable. Having her stand next to you while you talk to your friends is rude and very disrespectful. She doesn't need to be treated like a trophy that you carry around. Make her feel comfortable, let your friends be her friends. Briefly introduce her to the others, making sure she is physically included in the conversation.

Kobe Vs LeBron?

hmmm... maybe its <3 Kobe & LeBron <3

The Chills

Lebron vs Kobe. Kobe vs Jordan. There is no one that is better than Kobe Bryant in the NBA right now. Just stop. Lebron is a good player, and hes the best team player. But Kobe Bryant is the best player in the NBA right now. Kobe is just the most versatile player; hes got his mid-range, 3-point shooting, explosive drives to the basket, elusive moves to the basket and just overall determination. I mean, sure Lebron is good, Jordan is a legend. Kobe Bryant is a cocky player too, but he has every right to be. If I was as good as him, I'd let the world know too. Just watching Kobe dominating the NBA gives me the chills.

It's a shame Michael Jordan is not playing anymore, but I guess Kobe Vs. Lebron in the NBA Finals will have to do. Maybe this will be the definitive year for Kobe. To silence the critics and it can finally be set in stone; Kobe > Lebron

Let's Go

The Lazy Roadblock

There are multiple phases in a relationship. There is the beginning phase, where one has to initiate the relationship and both must work to begin the lasting relationship. There may be gifts involved; flowers, candy... the works. This is a very exciting phase, very fun and new. There is no expectation, no pressure and no hesitation involved, only adoration and dedication. This phase is quite simple and most people understand that hard-work is a requirement for this stage.

Then we move into phase 2, which is a bit more tricky. This is the part where two people become intimate and start to feel comfortable with each other. Some people see this phase as a freebie, a stage where both partners can set their relationship on cruise-control and feel the breeze in their hair. WRONG! This is a critical phase in a relationship and here's why.

As a guy, being comfortable with a girl is the greatest feeling ever. Having someone you love be a best friend to share all your secrets with, and to talk to her about anything is a wonderful feeling. But there is a fine line between being comfortable and being lazy.

Most girls will find their mates to be lazy in this phase. The guy might start dressing differently; she will see a little less of his nice jeans and shirts, and a little more of his sweat pants and hooded sweatshirts. She will begin to analyze his actions which may seem lazy to her. Calling/texting her only twice a day, rather than every hour or so from phase one.

Whilst the girl is seeing this in her man, the man is simply in a phase of comfort. Maybe he will call her less when she's out because he trusts her. Maybe he will dress a little differently because he wants to show that it's okay for her to let her hair down too.

Obviously, the juxtaposition of the two ideas creates a conflict between the two partners. It's hard to pinpoint when this situation occurs in phase two, but its important to know the resolution; communication.

Yes, it sounds very cliche; "communication is key to a healthy relationship." But it's true! How will she ever know that he's not being lazy if she doesn't give him a chance to explain his new- unattractive- behaviors? How will he ever understand her coldness towards him if he doesn't ask?

By talking about the situation and the changes that have occurred in the relationship, both partners can properly access the problems infront of them. If the guy seems to be lazy, he needs to remember that he needs to show her as much love as he did in phase one, that just being in a relationship doesn't mean the showering of love needs to stop. He could use a little reminder himself that she is his beloved and that he would do anything for her.

She would understand that the guy's expression of comfortability is a bit odd. Then she would begin to accept his actions and understand that his motives were not to be faineant. Maybe this way, she will realize that maybe she is expecting too much from him and come to terms that she is not in the relationship for the things he did for her, but simply out of adoration for him.

So in this difficult and tricky stage of the relationship, communication is crucial. Take the time to sit down and talk it out. Don't do anything irrational, calm yourself, keep your head up, be optimistic, give each other the benefit of the doubt, and talk it out! Always remember; there IS a phase 3. Don't be lazy, and make reaching the next phase both your goals.

Do Work

I remember the days of listening to this hardcore band... I know they are a bit crazy looking, but like they say; "don't judge a book by its cover." As crazy as they appear, I honestly think that they are very very musically talented. They also put on one hell of a show. I personally haven't been to any of their shows (I'm kind of scared to be killed by a mosh-pit) but from the hundreds of videos I've seen of their live performances, they are incredible. They just somehow capture the audience and put them in some sort of a trance and they all go off into their own little demonic world hah.

I remember I used to make fun of people that wore SlipKnot shirts and stuff, but that's because I was an ignorant fool. I was so judgmental of everyone and everything. I need to start to take the time to do a bit of research or get to know people because I automatically judge them. It's not only rude, but just downright obnoxious for me to judge a stranger for their beliefs and their interests. For those who know me, you know that I can be a funn kid, but when I need to, I can be as serious as anyone out there. But to those who don't know me too well and only read my blog posts, you might think that I'm some wacko with bi-polar disorder. I suppose you have the right to your own opinion, but instead of automatically assuming you know everything about everything/everyone, take a minute to actually get to know what's going on.

I am a SlipKnot listening, basketball playing, music loving, caring, kind, funny, determined, well-spoken, tubby, korean student (There are obviously other things to me, but you gotta actually do some work and find out who I am for yourself)

Oh ya, I got into Baruch :) Finally... those jerks took their sweet ass time with it too. 4-6 weeks my ass... it was more like 9 week for me!

Well, it's time to get back to work... =\ I hope everyone enjoys this nice weather today! Hopefully, it'll stay this nice when I get outta work at 5